Me ~ You hear and read more and more about non nuclear families as in families recreating themselves. Not just new mommies and daddies but a few of each or one of each of the same sex. Family in terms of definition or composition seems to be a hot topic today. So, what is the harm of the non nuclear family?
John ~ Firstly, God is the Creator of Heaven and Earth of all things seen and unseen. If you don't believe that, then you will not appreciate where I am going to go with my answer. God's design whether we like it or not, or agree with it or not is incredibly intrinsically complex and connected and that includes man place in it. I could say the same even talking as a nature loving humanist. But, I am not. I am a God fearing God loving God created man. So, what can we expect when we play God?
The harm....we will be creating imbalances throughout God's design. Yes, you could argue that isn't this a fallen world and these new ideas about family are reflective of that fallen world. Of course, they are. But, that does not mean we should pursue them in our sinful fallen nature in this fallen world. I know that there are many even educated people who believe in a Creator God and yet they also think that He has nothing to do with our lives in this world. Our fallen world makes it seem like God does not care, but that is not the case.
I know that argument put forward by Spinoza (even adopted by Einstein)... he illustrated it by saying that a if a circle believed in a God, its God would be a circle. That all created things imagine their God to be like them/what they are but that their creator is outside of their being. In that case, since man is God's creation, he believes God to look and be like him. In that sense, man already has a relationship with his Creator and that relationship can be furthered. So, yes, we can have a relationship with our Creator. Now, I am going off track and need to answer the question about recreating the nuclear family.
Though, we have been given a free will, we are called as Christians to submit to our Creator's will. Why? Because, he knows the best for us in this fallen world and He will lovingly give to us what we need if we just let Him, trust and rest in Him. We have to also acknowledge that the Bible is the Word of God, His instructions for us in this fallen world are written there. By following the Bible, we come closer to His will for us and what is best for us and realize that there is more than this fallen world, which He promises us.
So, you see, by creating a non nuclear family, we are opening a Pandora's box to destruction. Someone said, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Again, a non nuclear family will cause imbalances. These imbalances can crumble an entire system. We see this in nature when we remove an important part of the ecosystem i.e. removing wolves, which has taken generations to see the negative results but they are there.
The single mom problem has caused this kind of imbalance in society with men growing up thinking that they are women. If you are going to start designing your own families you will be creating imbalances that may cause humanity to become not worth saving or impossible to save. Of course, we know that in end times, it will be like in the days of Noah or moving up in time like Lot in Sodom. So, maybe there will be one family left worth saving or at least ten.
When we interfere with nature, we end up creating imbalances. We move things around and then one species takes over and we have to shot them as they take over. Even with quite visible failures, we still think we can do it right ...this time. We are messing with mankind's future. We are endangering humanity.
Believe me, I do feel for people who cannot conceive or suffer through bad marriages. But, that does not mean we have the right to usurp God's authority. We were destined for a specific order. We are not smart enough (God's
mind is incomparably greater) and therefore, we don't know enough to
play dice with ordered systems. We think we know better but we don't.
We should learn from the past, the far past- read Genesis!